Our 839th Dad in the Limelight is Stav Adam. I want to thank Stav Adam for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing Stav Adam with all of you.
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1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)
My name is Stav Adam
I’m 51 (May) Divorced 2 times from the lemons of the divorce I went to study and I act as a mediator on issues of divorce as well as within the family between parents and adolescents …
I”m in a relationship for four years and I”m happy in this place that I call home.
They say that I am a good cook (especially in the field of meat but not only …), writing recipes, sinning the need to fix the world and leave it better for my children from the day I brought them into the world … the situation in Israel regarding custody, alimony and gender equality has improved recently, but the road is long and I share the way of many fathers and mothers who do everything for their children …
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2) Tell me about your family
My family is an extended family
I maintain a healthy and good relationship without a wedding with Orna
I have 4 children:
26-year-old Eli who no longer lives in the house
Tay is 17 years old, Saar is 15 years old and tom is 11 years old
Orna brought our 19-year-old Liam to our extended family. He no longer lives at home, but does a year of volunteering before his army and 15-year-old Yali
The relationship in the family is good and we live in a community called Kadima Tzoran in the Sharon region of Israel
My parents, sister and family live in the same town …
It is not easy to maintain a relationship when both spouses are divorced Both believe and hold joint custody, And the level of coordination that needs to be done at home among all the children Holidays Birthdays and events can employ a full-time secretary … and yet … somehow we get along with a big smile
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3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?
When my first daughter was born, almost 26 years ago, I became a professional troublemaker for something else. I suddenly found myself suddenly, all the masks fell and I knew
I was a father!!!
The biggest challenge was for me about ten years ago during my second divorce
To get recognition from the Israeli establishment (the court and the state) that I am a qualified parent just like my ex-wife In fact, I am the first father in the State of Israel to receive joint custody with equal stay times without the mother’s consent
The very fact that I have always been involved and active in my children’s life, with all that entails, being the weight that has weighed the scales in favor of my children and they can grow in their lives also a mother who loves them in her own way and also a father who loves them and so they enjoy the two worlds something that not all the children of the divorce get … unfortunately.
4) What advice would you give to other fathers?
Be true … Do not play games, children are a treasure to cherish and care for, if you look from the point of view of a divorced parent … Remember that the other parent also loves your children and you have to keep his place in the lives of your children, you divorced. You do not have to be friends, remember that the children did not choose to come to this world and did not choose your divorce, every house has its rules and they apply to the children when they are there, do not try to manage the 2 houses, concentrate on your home and make it a protected, happy, and loving place … Remember this is not a competition !!!
5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life?
In my opinion, I do not need to balance life outside the framework of parenthood. In fact, I think that work and parenthood are something that fits well when the relationship is good, transparent and praiseworthy … If both partners share not only the tasks but the life itself with passion, Then if all things on the family table things will be balanced
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6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with
I learned to grow patience and tolerance
I learned how to listen mainly to myself and from there to allow others
I learned what love is without conditions or boundaries, along with healthy logic and a willingness to do something
I learned about the vulnerability, the insult, the deep rift when you do not get recognition as a parent just because you are a man and not a woman
I learned that with a smile and a willingness to help others, even without compensation, I can get a lot more from it
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7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?
My house is run without punishments, not fakes, and not the kind of confiscation or denial of things,
We converse with our children on every subject without concealing any detail and they are our full partners in life in the home of all of us … However the boundaries are clear … I am the best friend in the world of each of my children … and before all I am their father
8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?
There is no doubt that my child’s birth experience was the kind I will never forget, but unfortunately I will never forget the 10 April 20 years ago … We lost a pregnancy on the first day of the ninth month, a real connection to the umbilical cord, I guess it was the first crack In my second marriage … the experience left me a scar forever and to this day I try to support parents who have experienced this terrible experience …
If you have any questions for Stav Adam, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!
Also, do you know a Dad in the Limelight? If so, please email me their contact information so that they too can be a part of this series!
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